The #1 Reason Why Relationships Fail

Millions of people around the world have believed that they found their soulmate, their twin flame, or “the one”...

Only for that relationship to turn into a flaming wreck.

...Or at least a slow burning fizzle of disappointment and pain.

There are currently many more for whom this process is currently playing out.

Why is this so common?

It is NOT because everyone’s ex is a narcissist.

It is NOT because of karma, "false twin flames", or because they didn’t 'do it right' in manifesting their partner.

In most of the cases I have observed and witnessed, it comes down to this:

At least one - usually both partners - went into the relationship with the most dangerous belief that anyone can have when it comes to relationships:

“I don’t need to learn healthy relationship skills, I’m already an expert.”

Or this variation: “I did the work, so it’s up to others to step up.”

Or "I'll just figure it out as I go."

In other words, the most destructive force in human relationships is a lack of humility.

A lack of humility - not a narcissist - is the most common cause of most painful relationship patterns.

The truth is, most people will never make the effort to get the kind of support that would transform their relationships.

99% of people will blame other people for their relationship problems until the end of their lives.

They will struggle and suffer on the cross of “It’s not me, it’s them. Other people are the problem.”

This is just a sad reality about human nature.

But it doesn’t have to be this way for everyone.

There are many people who are starting to awaken to a new reality.

That thriving relationships don’t just happen with the right person.

That it’s not just about luck, finding the perfect fantasy partner, or using the right tricks of seduction..

That instead, it’s about putting in the time and effort in learning how to co-create true intimacy.

Learning how to work with conflict in a healthier way. How to communicate more effectively. Learning how to deal with resentment. Learning how to collaborate instead of battle or control each other over different needs and desires.

Learning the difference between self-blame - and taking responsibility for our lives.

There are people who have gone through enough of the painful patterns in their lives to realize the truth:

Nothing changes if we hold onto the same attitudes and habits we have always had.

Nothing changes if we keep giving our power away to blame.

Nothing changes if we keep accumulating more and more awareness through books and online resources, but don’t learn how to EMBODY that awareness.

There are people who have gone through enough emotional hell and are willing to do whatever it takes to stop repeating those patterns.

Even if it means getting really honest with themselves.

Even if it means putting in time, energy and true commitment into a new way of doing things.

These are the people I work with in my coaching, the people I choose to have around me, and the people who are paving a new way for humanity.

A new paradigm of healthy, harmonious and powerfully healing relationships.

Ultimately, the question we are all faced with is this:

“How much did I invest in the things that really mattered to me?”

“How much was I a passive passenger in my love life - instead of a proactive agent of change, transformation and renewal?”

- Serdar Hararovich