Does this sound like you?
✔ You are single (or seeing someone) and desire a fulfilling, loving relationship - but not sure what might be getting in the way
✔ You have experienced painful relationship patterns that haven’t served you
✔ You want to make sure your next (or current) relationship is the healthiest, most secure one ever
✔ You are ready to become a powerful co-creator in your love life so you can align with the love of your life.
✔ You desire to embody your most Secure Self so that you can stop aligning with trauma bonds, emotionally immature partners or unhealthy patterns
✔ You sometimes struggle to express needs, desires or boundaries in a healthy way - either having no boundaries, or expressing them reactively (leading to conflict or disconnect)
✔ You have gotten hooked on people who were not an aligned match for you
✔ You have felt frustrated about how partners and lovers choose to show up - or not show up
✔ You desire to learn & embody the secrets of true intimacy and Secure Relating - skills for a lifetime of love.
There is more relationship advice than ever before, yet most people are still struggling to cultivate healthy connection.
Whether it’s push / pull dynamics, the Anxious / Avoidant cycles of pain, attracting misaligned partners, or not trusting ourselves (or others) - these issues are even more prevalent than ever.
Why?
Instead of learning practical skills that can be applied in realistic ways - people are told all they need to do is ‘manifest’ “The One.”
Instead of learning how to navigate old fears or feel worthy as they are, women are told they should behave more “Feminine” to attract someone.
Instead of learning how to have healthier boundaries or how to feel confident in their Authentic Self, men are told they just should act more “Masculine” - which is creating even more shallow, unsustainable relationships based on performance.
Instead of working on one’s own wounds from past experiences, people are told the real issue is other people - other people are always the real problem, and all you have to do is stop dating anyone that is deemed “Avoidant”.
Instead of learning advanced communication skills for deep intimacy, people are taught to use “I” statements and share everything as a “need” statement - none of which get to the heart of the power struggles people experience.
Instead of being shown how to collaborate with each other in a beautifully loving way, we are fed gender wars, animosity or lessons on how to seduce each other for temporary attraction, as if that has anything to do with lasting love.
It’s time for a new way.
Introducing
Secure Dating
with Serdar Hararovich
An interactive, experiential online program to support you with the practical skills and tools to find, nurture, and keep the love of your life.
Start Date: September 20th, 2024
6 x LIVE Weekly 1.5Hour Group Calls - Q&A’s with Serdar, Live Support & Guidance, Powerful Practical Group Exercises & Secure Attachment Healing Processes (Value: $1000)
60+ Video Lessons: Over 7+ Hours of Structured, Bite-Sized Educational Material (Value: $900)
THE SCRIPTS: 50+ Detailed, practical examples of implementing Secure, healthy relating to a wide variety of situations in dating & love (Value: $90)
1:1 Integration Session with Serdar following program
Community: Be part of The Conscious Dating supportive community group of like-minded people committed to healthy, conscious and loving relationships
Payment Plans: Pay in full or in 4x Instalments (See below)
Watch Anytime: You have lifetime access to the material, meaning you can come back to the material at any stage of a relationship (even if you’re just focusing on you for now).
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Starting Date:
// Friday, September 20th, 10AM (Australia) and
// Thursday, September 19th (North America)• Australia: Fridays, 10AM
• USA (EST): Thursdays, 8PM
• USA (PST): Thursdays, 5PM
• Bali: Fridays, 8AM
• Europe (CET): Fridays, 2AMWEEKLY OUTLINE
Week 1: Friday, September 20th
Week 2: Friday, September 27th
Week 3: Friday, October 4th
Friday October 11th - BREAK WEEK - NO LIVE CALL
Week 4: Friday, October 18th (NSW/VIC now starting @ 11AM)
Week 5: Friday, October 25th
Week 6: Friday, November 1st
CLICK HERE TO ADD GROUP 1 TO YOUR CALENDER NOW 📅
“Wow... the ideal partner visualisation.
So profound and a deeply emotional experience. Thank you Serdar for guiding us through and helping me to discover and then imprint a new blueprint of secure attachment 💖”
- LIMITED TIME DISCOUNT - First 5 People -
$555 USD / €520 Euro / $844 AUD. Full Course, Lifetime Access.
875 USD / 795 Euros / 1300 AUD. Full Access to the course, + 3 Private 1:1 Sessions with Serdar to deepen your journey into healthy intimacy and overcome old patterns through powerful, personalised support.
1499 USD / 1360 Euros / 2250 AUD. For those who want to make the most of this program, these additional benefits are designed to help maximise your investment exponentially, by receiving personalised support over 6 sessions - the recommended starting point for anchoring in a new way of living & loving.
Course Modules
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WEEK 1: Intentional Dating & Conscious Sexuality
• What Are You Making Yourself Available For?
• Why You Should Wait Before Having Sex
• Grounded Intimacy & Non-Sexual Connection
• Boundaries, Desires & Meaning - The Conversations Everyone Needs To Be Having
• The 5 Guidelines to Conscious Sexual
BONUS: The Psychology of Self-Fulfilling Prophecies
BONUS: Complaints Vs Desires -
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WEEK 2: Self-Awareness & Discernment
• Dating Priorities
• Dating Criterias
• Dating Apps (Why Everyone Misuses Them + The 5 Tips To Use Them for Deeper Connection)
• Non-Negotiables, Red-Flags & Dealbreakers
• Chemistry VS Compatibility
BONUS: Understanding Repetition Compulsion
BONUS: How To Stop Transferring Your Past Wounds & Narratives Into The Here & Now -
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WEEK 3: Secure Relating
• What Secure Intimacy Really Means (Going beyond Attachment Styles)
• The Practical Steps to Successfully Navigate Your Anxious or Avoidant Side
• Navigating Other People’s Anxious or Avoidant side (everyone has one)
• How To Become Securely Attached
LIVE CALL: Practicing Secure ways of communicating and addressing issues to transform old patterns
LIVE CALL: Live Secure Attachment Healing Process -
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WEEK 4: The Secrets of Relational & Inner Security
• Deepening Into Connection
• Getting clarity on what the connection means
• The 4 Keys to RELATIONAL security
• How to deepen Secure Attachment to your date/partner
• The 4 Keys to INNER Security
• How to deepen your Secure Attachment to yourself and the world around you
• Letting Go Consciously -
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WEEK 5: Triggers & Texting
• Guide: The 5-Step Trigger Processing Protocol
• The 5 Guidelines of Texting
• Why Over-Processing Over Text Is Killing Relationships... and what to do
• Social Media and it’s effects on dating
• Exclusivity & How To Talk About It
• Cheating - Both Emotional & Physical
• Open Relating & Ethical Non-Monogamy (Why there’s no “right” or “more evolved” option) -
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WEEK 6: Opening to Love
• 6 Ways To Meet Your Partner
• Best & Worst Questions on First Dates
• Successful Attitudes for Dates
• The 8 Dating Myths That Are Sabotaging Promising Connections
• The Distancing Effect
• How To Stop Unintentionally Pushing Away Healthy Partners (+ How To Know If You Are) -
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BONUS MODULE: Authentic Confidence & Self-Worth
• Surprising Signs of Low Self-Worth In Dating• The Problem with Telling People to Just "Love Yourself"
• How To Deepen Your Self-Acceptance
• Steps to Reclaiming Your True Authentic Self
• Working With Comparison
• Navigating your Inner Critic• Turning the Inner Critic Into Your Compassionate Coach
What Recent Participants Are Saying
Alaina
❝The Secure Dating course was everything I hoped it would be. My whole adult life has been a string of unfulfilling and painful dating experiences. I signed up for this course at a time in my life where I was feeling disempowered and deflated about my dating life and how to break free of painful patterns.
My favourite part of the course was the practical tools and scripts. I now feel more prepared and empowered to navigate the inevitable challenges that come with dating and relating.
If you are feeling stuck and unsure about how to shift unhealthy communication patterns, this course is for you. My only wish is I had this information sooner. It’s a beautiful gift to yourself and an invaluable investment.❞
Kelly Magleby
❝I found Serdar and the Secure Dating Program at just the right time...through synchronicity or divine intervention. I was in a desperate space in a relationship watching old patterns unfolding … like witnessing a slow motion train wreck I felt powerless to stop what was happening.
The program first gave me hope. I felt like for once my exact situation and patterns were understandable and relatable. I could finally feel tenderness and compassion for myself rather than feel broken, like there was something wrong with me and I was doomed to continually being misunderstood and left hurting in relationships that would inevitably fall apart.
The platform creates a feeling of community and support and that has helped me so much in my healing, finding my inner strength and helping me find the right dialogue and conversations to create healthy boundaries for myself. This has made all the difference!
The program has provided the tools for me to approach my relationships from a new place...one of security, understanding and confidence..❞
Fenix Grace
❝Being a part of Serdar's Secure Dating course has been valuable, fun, and deep. There is so much thoughtfully curated and practical wisdom in the video modules, and you can tell that Serdar is an expert and embodies what he teaches.
I felt myself really sink into those exercises and let go of any anxiety or nervousness by experientially practicing different scenarios. Another highlight for me was the Secure Partner meditative exercise. It was incredibly powerful to imagine a secure partner out in front of me, interact with them, and notice what came up for me.
This is by far the most comprehensive dating course I've ever taken. Serdar is a phenomenal guide, and he skilfully holds a loving, grounded space. I cannot recommend this course enough.❞
Nick Kenny
❝Serdar’s passion for this work shines through from start to finish. He brings his heart, his soul, and his years of experience learning and helping others into the course, and I am incredibly grateful for this.
The work itself goes to a richer and deeper level that very few coaches are actually exploring right now.
I uncovered so many insights into myself and the worlds of dating and connecting, more powerful and effective ways to communicate, and I am excited to bring these learnings into my life. In a sentence: the world needs more of this!❞
Kirsty Mason
❝The secure dating program was such transformative experience for me. It’s helped me to rediscover parts of myself that I've suppressed, and understand myself on a much deeper level. My confidence and energy has levelled up, and I feel myself shifting into a higher version of self.
Serdar is such a beautiful, kind and loving soul. His calm, grounded masculine energy creates such a loving and safe environment.
I absolutely loved connecting with likeminded souls - they were loving, supportive and nurturing as we all went through this journey together.
I was definitely divinely guided to Serdar and his life changing course.❞
After this course, you will be able to:
❤️ Cultivate powerful, healthy communication skills - the secret to deep intimacy and successful dating
❤️ Co-create emotional safety & security - both for yourself and for others
❤️ Express your needs & desires in ways that inspire other people to want to meet them
❤️ Transform old communication habits that have led to disconnect, defensiveness or shut-down
❤️ Navigate fears & insecurities in constructive, healthy ways
❤️ Show up as your best, most Secure self - EVEN in challenging & triggering moments
❤️ Successfully handle relational anxiety + avoidance in completely new ways
❤️ Stop the most common dating mistakes & myths before they sabotage a beautiful and promising connection
❤️ Identify & overcome unconscious, unhealthy dating patterns
❤️ Attract the most soulful, fulfilling, and healing connection of your life
The lack of healthy, balanced and grounded guidance means many people unintentionally end up repeating the same patterns over and over again.
This program is not just another bunch of pointless, fluffy ideas that ‘sound good’ but have no connection to reality.
This program is the antidote to the many myths and the misleading advice that keeps people stuck in unhealthy patterns - and keeps them away from deep, secure, authentic intimacy.
It’s easy for people say all of this is harmless, but after working with over 100 individuals in the last 5 years, I know for a fact that it is not harmless.
I have seen the pain and suffering that people go through in their love lives as a direct result of what is currently being taught, the superficial bandaid solutions being sold to people, as well as what our cultures are feeding us with.
Nothing impacts our lives more profoundly than the quality and depth of our relationships with others - and it all starts with the dating process.
But this program is even deeper than that. It’s about deepening our relationships to ourselves and towards other people.
It’s time for a new way to date & relate to each other.
It’s time for a new paradigm of deep, secure, collaborative & truly loving intimacy.
Meet Your Facilitator:
Serdar Hararovich
Serdar Hararovich is a Relationship & Intimacy Guide who specializes in Trauma-Informed and particularly Attachment-Informed coaching & support. He has been supporting private clients with tried & tested tools for deep, healthy and secure intimacy for almost 5 years.
His work is based on his unique synthesis of the principles of Secure Attachment & Secure Functioning as researched by Dr John Bowlby, Dr Stan Tatkin, Dr Daniel P. Brown and the ground-breaking textbook, "Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair".
He incorporates these insights into a powerfully effective framework of healing & self-development that is adapted to be highly practical, grounded & enables clients to save years of time - by getting to the heart of the issue quickly, outlining the most effective interventions and solutions, and walking people through them step by step.
As someone who lived with Insecure Attachment & CPTSD for most of his life, he knows personally the crippling impact of old coping mechanisms and the unconscious roadblocks to deeper love that we all develop in life.
After a long journey of healing and discovering what helps people to truly transform permanently - as well as what keeps people looping in old patterns - he is dedicated to supporting people in ways that genuinely make a difference, saving them years of looping around in circles.
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I created this course because I know what it's like to be unhappy & frustrated in my love life and confused about how to change it.
I spent many years looking for the answers in books, retreats, spiritual teachings and all the experts I could learn from.
At the same time, I went from one relationship to another not knowing why I kept experiencing the same patterns and attracting the same dynamics…or what to do about it.
Instead of helpful guidance, much of what I found was based on dogmatic black & white thinking that lacked nuanced & depth.
Whether it was teaching us how to spiritually bypass our human needs, calling everything toxic, blaming other people, or a perpetuation of the gender wars going on right now, it didn’t help.
Not to mention ideas about how Men & Women should relate with each other, which just meant I ended up performing a role that was never truly authentic.
That worked temporarily, but it didn’t get me what I truly wanted.
Fulfilling relationships are a fundamental human need - not something to leave up to ungrounded ideologies, nor the latest trends and clichés.
I still lacked these skills of healthy communication and I was full of deep mistrust from past experiences that kept me away from the thing I wanted most:
Deep, soulful, loving intimacy.
Since I had done so much work on myself, it was easy to point the finger at other people in frustration - saying THEY weren’t evolved or mature enough.
But as I came to realize, I had just never been compassionately guided back into my power to co-create what I wanted in my life.
I was just never shown the specific skills and tools to do it.
For years I had undergone a healing journey where I tried everything I could: shamanic journeys, counselling, breathwork, somatic healing, you name it.
All of it was helpful, yet it wasn't until I discovered the practical tools that I share in this course that things really started to change for good.
What I have discovered is that the secret to healthy relationships is NOT trying to be perfectly healed of all our insecurities, fears or doubts.
Instead, it’s learning how to navigate them together in powerful new ways.
What I discovered is that healthy relationships are a skillset, and we need to practice those skills to master them.
Without that, we simply default to the old ways we have always done things.. with the same results. That’s exactly what was happening for me.
I had accumulated a lot of awareness over the years, but it wasn’t until I learned how to integrate this knowledge into my relationships that things actually changed.
It wasn’t until I started practicing these specific skills that I could then start to enjoy the benefits of deeply authentic and secure intimacy and everything it offers:
The stability, the sense of being truly seen and loved, the harmony & ease… and the feeling that anything is possible, knowing there’s no challenge we can’t tackle together.
That's why I wrote this course - it’s everything I wish I knew 10 years ago.
The clear guidance and the realistic, practical tools that I needed from the start.
The tools that we all need to love each other well, to stop hurting each other, and to create deeper, more compassionate relationships rooted in trust, collaboration and understanding.
If this resonates with you, I’d love for you to join me on this journey into deep, authentic and soulful intimacy.
Co-Presenter:
Jenny Mohr
Jenny is a Co-Presenter for most of the Pre-Recorded Video Modules alongside Serdar (over 7 hours of content), however will not be on the Live Calls due to personal commitments.
She has trained extensively with The Somatica® Institute and Brainspotting Trainer, Lisa Larson, with the Pacific Counseling and Trauma Center.
Her completed trainings includes: Somatica® Training, Somatica® Character Training. Jenny is also trained in the PTSD supportive therapy, Brainspotting, which uses bilateral sound and focused eye gaze to access the midbrain and release trauma.
Emotional Support:
Charu Morgan
Charu Morgan has 18 years of experience supporting Couples and Individuals with their relationships, and she will be available during the Live Calls (for Group 1 only) for anyone who needs some extra emotional support. We are very grateful for her presence during this program.
"Over the past 18 years I have run events and retreats primarily in the Los Angeles area and supported clients extensively through 1 on 1 coaching. I draw from my extensive personal practice in relationship as well as my work with hundreds of clients, to provide the very best support for both couples and individuals who are longing for something more from relationship and sex.
I never stop learning and I know even after all these years I am only at the beginning. In 2001 I travelled and studied Neo-Tantra in India. I did my teacher training around 2004 with The Chandra Bindu Tantra Institute. For more than 10 years, my personal practice has been a Traditional Shri Vidya Tantric practice, guided by Nita Rubio.
This life is so short. The time to love someone is so short. The time to explore ourselves and make love and go deeper than we ever imagined in intimacy is so short.”
FAQ
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Starting Date:
// Friday, September 20th, 10AM (Australia) and
// Thursday, September 19th (North America)• Australia: Fridays, 10AM
• USA (EST): Thursdays, 8PM
• USA (PST): Thursdays, 5PM
• Bali: Fridays, 8AM
• Europe (CET): Fridays, 2AMWEEKLY OUTLINE
Week 1: Friday, September 20th
Week 2: Friday, September 27th
Week 3: Friday, October 4th
Friday October 11th - BREAK WEEK - NO LIVE CALL
Week 4: Friday, October 18th (NSW/VIC now starting @ 11AM)
Week 5: Friday, October 25th
Week 6: Friday, November 1st -
If you cannot attend any of the Live Calls (For eg., you live in Europe or your work schedule prevents you from joining), you can still purchase this program for a discounted price of 40% OFF Full Price!
This will give you access to all the 7 Hours of Pre-Recorded Content + Over 40 Homework Exercises.
To access this discount, use the code: 40DISCOUNT
Please note: When you use this discount code, you will not be able to join the Live Calls - you will only have access to the Pre-Recorded Videos (7+ Hours), The Scripts, and the 40+ Homework Exercises + Bonus Resources.
This discount only applies for Standard Full Access, not for the packages that include private 1:1 Sessions.
I have designed this program so that it will be a transformational experience for you even if you can't attend the Live Calls. -
3 Hours P/W.
Weekly Video Modules: 1 Hour (average)
Weekly Live Call: 1.5 Hour
Homework Exercises: 30 Mins
If you commit to the program in full, that would be 3 hours per week. However, it’s up to you how much time you want to invest each week. -
Yes! Many people have taken this program previously when they were focusing more on themselves.
Whether you are currently celibate, taking a break from dating, or healing from a past relationship, this course will support you to feel confident & secure once you do re-enter the dating world with a completely new approach - one where the foundations are strong and healthy, allowing you to align with a completely new level of love, safety and true intimacy. -
Yes, the tools and skills in this course are designed to be practical & can apply to both dating & partnership -you will be able to use these skills immediately to experience more security, depth, collaboration, ease and harmony in your love life.
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Nope. I (Serdar) stated at the beginning of the AI trend that I will NEVER use AI to generate any of my course material or any of my articles, and unlike the vast majority of other programs out there, I continue to live by that.
I am not against the use of new technology - however, I believe that the depth of clarity, insight and transformational approaches inside a program like this can ONLY come from lived and embodied experience - NOT from a computer generated amalgamation of 'information'.For that reason, everything inside this course is based NOT on 'what sounds good in theory' or 'what sells' - it's based on what will actually transform your relationship & dating patterns for good.
Believe me, there’s nothing like this out there, and if you follow my work you know that I take this stuff seriously. -
Many things, but one of the most transformative aspects of this course is the focus on practical skills. Many of my clients are people who have done many years of therapy, healing their trauma and working on their nervous system. Yet before working with me, they still struggled with things like sharing boundaries in a healthy & calm way, collaborating on differences, and being vulnerable & authentic in a healthy way (as opposed to trauma dumping).
In this program, you will not only gain 'awareness' of how to date & be in partnership from a truly integrated, healthy and Secure place - but you will develop the real, practical skills of how to do it. This is what makes this course RADICALLY different than anything else out there.
This is going to change everything.
Still Not Sure?
$555 USD / €520 Euro / $844 AUD. Full Course, Lifetime Access.
875 USD / 795 Euros / 1300 AUD. Full Access to the course, + 3 Private 1:1 Sessions with Serdar to deepen your journey into healthy intimacy and overcome old patterns through powerful, personalised support.
1499 USD / 1360 Euros / 2250 AUD. For those who want to make the most of this program, these additional benefits are designed to help maximise your investment exponentially, by receiving personalised support over 6 sessions - the recommended starting point for anchoring in a new way of living & loving.