An advanced online training for powerful, healing relationships.
What People Say About This Course:
“Serdar’s video course has been teaching me things I didn’t even know I needed to learn. It has been dramatically changing my perspective. Through it I am coming to see that I had been relating to connection from a place of competition and contention, and this course is helping to imprint and implement a new, revolutionary model based on collaboration.
I have received tremendous value in being walked through concrete examples of a new paradigm and practice for relating. As a know it all who has spent years believing it was my partner’s fault, and now seeing remarkable shifts in all my relationships through my learning process here, I couldn’t recommend this course more.”
- Chelan Harkin, Author
Does this sound like you?
✔ You crave deeper, healthier intimacy, but find yourself in old relationship patterns and unhealthy communication cycles
✔ You sometimes struggle to express boundaries in a healthy way (either having no boundaries - or expressing them reactively)
✔ Your fears or insecurities in relationships have gotten in the way of deepening into trust & intimacy
✔ Triggers, anger, or conflict have eroded the harmony & love in your relationships
✔ It sometimes feels like “my” needs vs “their” needs in your love life
Let's face it - there’s a lot of noise, confusion and marketing buzzwords out there when it comes to dating & love.
Most of it misses the basic truths about healthy, fulfilling relationships.
Instead of grounded guidance, we are fed constantly changing theories about how you shouldn’t do X or Y because you won’t appear Feminine or Masculine enough - or how pretty much everything is a red-flag.
Or, we are told we need to just love ourselves and be perfectly healed in order to attract the right partner or have the perfect relationship.
To add to this, our cultures are full of animosity and resentment between Men & Women. It poisons every aspect of our relationships with each other.
Given all this, it’s no wonder that so many are struggling to create healthy connections and instead end up re-creating old patterns, codependency or trauma bonds.
This is tragic because there is nothing more important to our sense of well-being and happiness than the quality of our relationships.
When we feel deeply seen, safe and lovingly connected with another - this is when we thrive.
Our heart feels at peace. This is when we truly shine and flourish as human beings.
But to be able to navigate the many challenges of intimacy,
So that we can feel secure and at ease in the vulnerability of soul-deep connection…
… is an art that most of us were never taught.
Introducing The Art of True Intimacy
with Serdar Hararovich
and Jenny Mohr
A Self-Paced Online Course & advanced training to compassionately support you with the practical skills needed for healthy intimacy.
This program is about embodying your wholeness as a full-spectrum human being - and learning how to co-create the most fulfilling relationships of your life - romantic, platonic or otherwise.
5 Video Modules - 6 hours of Core Content + bonus content
Module 1: Boundaries, Needs, Desires
Module 2: Trust & Safety, Part 1
Module 3: Trust & Safety, Part 2
Module 4: Conscious Conflict, Part 1
Module 5: Conscious Conflict, Part 2
Extras:
Powerful journaling prompts
Exclusive guides to help integrate the lessons
A comprehensive guide to transforming unhealthy relationship patterns into a new paradigm of deep, soulful, collaborative intimacy.
This course will allow you to:
❤️Master healthy conflict & communication skills - the secret to fulfilling relationships (and having more peace & stability in your life)
❤️ Express your needs & desires in ways that make people want to meet them
❤️ Let go of any shame around your needs, your fears and your deepest desires
❤️ Navigate fears & insecurities in constructive, healthy ways
❤️ Learn the most common relationship & intimacy killers (and how to prevent them)
❤️ Stop resentment, conflict & blame from damaging your relationships
❤️ Feel crystal clear knowing exactly what you need, how to ask for it, and how to respond if you’re not receiving it
❤️ Align with the most soulful and fulfilling romantic and sexual relationships of your life.
❤️ For Coaches & Practioners: Feel more confident guiding your clients through the complexities and nuances of intimacy
WHAT’S INSIDE?
Module 1: Boundaries, Needs, Desires
• Tools to embody clear, healthy boundaries.
• Control vs Boundaries - why many people unintentionally end up trying to control others, and why knowing the difference is so essential for a healthy partnership
• Why do some boundaries generate confusion or defensiveness and leave you feeling unheard - and how do you prevent that?
• How can you express strong boundaries with love?
• What are other ways to get your needs met without having to always express a boundary?
• Learn how to how to identify repressed resentment - and what to do with it so it doesn’t do damage
• Dozens of artful, authentic ways to express your needs & desires.
PDF Handout: "Influence: Understanding the difference between Boundaries & Control” by Serdar Hararovich
Module 2 & 3: Trust & Safety, Parts 1 & 2
• The 8 little-known signs that mistrust is sabotaging your love life
• Discover how to collaboratively work with your fears and mistrust in new ways
• Why trying to push away insecurities & trying to be “perfectly healed” is not the answer
• Learn practical ways to create more safety & security both for yourself and your partner
• Dozens of scripts detailing how to talk about your fears in a way that creates an atmosphere of openness and helps create a deeper bond
• Explore how to work with common fears & challenges to feel more open & confident, including: Fear of vulnerability, Fear of abandonment or betrayal, Fear of enmeshment, Fear of settling, Fear of being lied to and more.
Module 4: Conscious Conflict (Part 1)
• The 4 most common relationship killers - what are they and how do you prevent them?
• What are the most common causes of conflict, contempt, and resentment?
• How can you effectively respond to criticism or contempt?
• What is Positive Relational Energy & how do you use it to cultivate a fulfilling connection even when there is conflict?
• How do you communicate your needs in a healthy, loving way that allows you to be truly heard?
• Discover 7 unintentional ways we make people feel unsafe & pull away from us
Module 5: Conscious Conflict (Part 2)
• Discover 8 powerful ways to co-create deep emotional safety so others can open the deepest part of their heart to you
• Learn how to constructively process your triggers, anger & resentment by honouring your emotions and cultivating internal process awareness
• Become someone who responds instead of reacts even in the hard moments
• What can you do before, during and after conflict to reduce the damage - and instead use it to enhance your bond?
PDF Handouts: "The 25 Guidelines for Conscious Conflict" + "A Step-by-Step Repair Process"
A comprehensive guide to transforming unhealthy relationship patterns into a new paradigm of deep, soulful, collaborative intimacy.
Meet Your Presenters:
Serdar Hararovich
Serdar Hararovich is a Relationship & Intimacy Guide who specializes in Attachment-Informed coaching & support. He has been supporting private clients with tried & tested tools of healthy, authentic intimacy for 4 years.
His work is based on his study of the principles of Secure Attachment & Secure Functioning as researched by Dr John Bowlby, Dr Stan Tatkin, Dr Daniel P. Brown and the ground-breaking textbook, "Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair".
He incorporates these insights into a unique coaching framework that is adapted to be highly practical, grounded & tailored for the needs of individuals in the modern world of dating & relationships.
The basis of his work is establishing an integrated & compassionate relationship to our own self, in order to create a strong & integrated Self from which we can then connect to others from.
Developing this deeply integrated & compassionate relationship to ourselves - including our needs, our desires, our fears and vulnerabilities - allows us feel truly whole and to honour who we really are. Both as individuals and within the context of relationship.
From here, we can learn how to respond - instead of react - much more effectively to the many challenges we face in intimacy.
It also means we can connect with others with greater depth and authenticity, which leads to more fulfilling and lasting relationships built upon a solid foundation of authenticity, mutuality, depth and inter-dependence.
To achieve this, Serdar helps his clients - and now those who will be joining this course - to master effective & collaborative communication skills.
This focus on collaborative relationship skills - and the practical, profound and nuanced details of what that really looks like in modern dating & relationships - is a game-changing approach that sets his work apart.
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I created this course because I know what it's like to be unhappy & frustrated in my love life and confused about how to change it.
I spent many years looking for the answers in books, retreats, spiritual teachings and all the experts I could learn from.
At the same time, I went from one relationship to another not knowing why I kept experiencing the same patterns and attracting the same dynamics…or what to do about it.
Instead of helpful guidance, much of what I found was based on dogmatic black & white thinking that lacked nuanced & depth.
Whether it was teaching us how to spiritually bypass our human needs, calling everything toxic, blaming other people, or a perpetuation of the gender wars going on right now, it didn’t help.
Not to mention ideas about how Men & Women should relate with each other, which just meant I ended up performing a role that was never truly authentic.
That worked temporarily, but it didn’t get me what I truly wanted.
Fulfilling relationships are a fundamental human need - not something to leave up to ungrounded ideologies, nor the latest trends and clichés.
I still lacked these skills of healthy communication and I was full of deep mistrust from past experiences that kept me away from the thing I wanted most:
Deep, soulful, loving intimacy.
Since I had done so much work on myself, it was easy to point the finger at other people in frustration - saying THEY weren’t evolved or mature enough.
But as I came to realize, I had just never been compassionately guided back into my power to co-create what I wanted in my life.
I was just never shown the specific skills and tools to do it.
For years I had undergone a healing journey where I tried everything I could: shamanic journeys, counselling, breathwork, somatic healing, you name it.
All of it was helpful, yet it wasn't until I discovered the practical tools that I share in this course that things really started to change for good.
What I have discovered is that the secret to healthy relationships is NOT trying to be perfectly healed of all our insecurities, fears or doubts.
Instead, it’s learning how to navigate them together in powerful new ways.
What I discovered is that healthy relationships are a skillset, and we need to practice those skills to master them.
Without that, we simply default to the old ways we have always done things.. with the same results. That’s exactly what was happening for me.
I had accumulated a lot of awareness over the years, but it wasn’t until I learned how to integrate this knowledge into my relationships that things actually changed.
It wasn’t until I started practicing these specific skills that I could then start to enjoy the benefits of deeply authentic and secure intimacy and everything it offers:
The stability, the sense of being truly seen and loved, the harmony & ease… and the feeling that anything is possible, knowing there’s no challenge we can’t tackle together.
That's why I wrote this course - it’s everything I wish I knew 10 years ago.
The clear guidance and the realistic, practical tools that I needed from the start.
The tools that we all need to love each other well, to stop hurting each other, and to create deeper, more compassionate relationships rooted in trust, collaboration and understanding.
If this resonates with you, I’d love for you to join me on this journey in the Art of Deep, Authentic Intimacy.
Co-Presenter:
Jenny Mohr
Jenny believes that if we can release and integrate the shame, trauma, and misguided beliefs from our painful past experiences, and learn new ways to connect with others - we will powerfully transform ourselves and the world around us. Life can become so much more easeful and peaceful.
She loves guiding clients to discover their true self, and encourage them to embody new ways of being that bring them more freedom, connection, and love in their lives.
When we have our needs of love and connection met in a way that our relationships fill us up rather than drag us down - we can share our true gifts with the world and devote our magic to make this world a better place.
Jenny has been practicing as an Intimacy Coach, shadow integration and Tantric embodiment guide for over 4 years.
She has trained extensively with The Somatica® Institute and Brainspotting Trainer, Lisa Larson, with the Pacific Counseling and Trauma Center.
Her completed trainings includes: Somatica® Training, Somatica® Character Training. Jenny is also trained in the PTSD supportive therapy, Brainspotting, which uses bilateral sound and focused eye gaze to access the midbrain and release trauma.
Jenny co-presents all the Pre-Recorded Video Modules alongside Serdar.
FAQ
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The total length of the course is 6 hours. You could complete the course in a week or take your time to fully absorb the material over a period of weeks and months. It’s totally up to you and how you best learn.
Given the amount of transformational tools, insights and exercises offered here, it’s recommended that you pace yourself with the material and watch 1 module per week. -
Absolutely. The material in this course is not limited to romantic partnerships. It is also applicable in other areas in life, including our relationship to ourselves.
And if you would like to one day have a healthy and fulfilling relationship, this course will create a very powerful & healthy foundation for that reality in your life. -
Yes, the tools and skills in this course are designed to be practical and you will be able to use them immediately to experience more security, authenticity, collaboration, ease and harmony in your love life.
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Of course. One person doing this type of work can change a lot in a relationship.
One of the most common issues for couples is one partner believing they are more "advanced" than the other. While there may be a grain of truth to this, in most cases they haven't yet learnt many of the skills of collaboratively communicating and working on issues in a healthy way as outlined in this course.
When people are embodying Secure & Healthy Relating, nobody feels above nor below the other.
PLEASE NOTE: The material in this course is not intended to address situations of abuse. If you are or someone you love is in danger, or in an abusive situation, contact the (US) National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or 1800 737 732 in Australia. -
Absolutely.
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One of the most harmful ideas in the personal development world is that having fear, insecurity or mistrust means you are not “healed”, which only creates more shame.
This means that many people end up reacting FROM these unintegrated fears, instead of learning new skills to work WITH them.
This pressure causes many issues: It means people can’t be real with each other - they feel like they have to put on a mask of perfection, and then any vulnerability that comes through makes them feel broken.
The reality is no matter how much healing work you do, your past experiences will still impact your current and future relationships.
Yes, healing work is definitely helpful and necessary in many cases - but then we still need to learn how to navigate and talk about what’s coming up for us in the here and now.
THIS is what creates the foundations of a soulful, healthy relationship that can be deeply healing. Not trying to be perfect, but instead truly owning our humanity consciously compassionately. This is what makes this course radically different from anything else out there.