Crossing The Threshold

By Serdar Hararovich
━━━━
All relationship challenges are an opportunity for growth & healing - whether it's internal or relational. When we experience these challenges, we are invited to cross the thresholds of vulnerability and humility - to ask for help from those who can truly assist us.

In ancient times, we didn't turn to friends for this kind of guidance. We sought wise counsel from someone whose sacred role was to help individuals face such trials - not just for themselves, but for the well-being of the tribe.

In the modern age, human beings have lost the ability to cross this threshold. We don't even know it exists because we have lost almost all meaningful guidance. We turn to the socials, and then wonder why our patterns continue for years, if not decades. We've lost the courage to ask for help from those who can actually help, and we've lost the discernment to know the difference between real guides and performative gurus. We passively absorb the ideas of emotionally disturbed individuals, who's unprocessed wounding is passed off as empowerment.

Instead of wise counsel, we have been taught how to demonise other people as the real problem. We've been taught conscious-sounding language that disguises the shadows we aren't willing to face. We've been taught how to build our spiritual ego of superiority, but not how to be honest with ourselves. We've been taught to call out other people's projections, but remain blind to our own.

This is why, when relationships break apart, that process is becoming more toxic than ever.

Yet all hope is not lost.

Awareness, acceptance, and the humility of self-honesty is the beginning of healing. Many people are starting to choose the path of vulnerability & humility and beginning to experience the depths of true intimacy - a deeper kind of love & connection that our culture doesn't prepare anyone for.

The majority of people will keep choosing denial and blame, because it's easier than facing the hard yet sacred work of learning how to love well. But this is not inevitable - it's still a choice every individual gets to make. And in a world that continues to slide down the path to deeper disconnection, animosity and surface-level healing, it may be one of the most important choices you ever make.

This is the work of deeper healing. To not only seek comfort and soothing (which we do also need), but to avoid the trap of surrounding ourselves with enablers of our shadows. To seek those who can hold our blind spots without judgment, and guide us with compassion and clarity towards depths of healing, and of love, that are only available to those who have crossed these thresholds.

This is what we lost. But it's also what we can reclaim. The initiations of true intimacy are waiting.